'Laws of the Heart'
These are the Laws that govern Emotion. They state the rules that apply to the feelings of the heart.
THE LAW OF SITUATIONAL MEANING
Emotions derive from situations and certain
situations elicit a certain type of emotion. For example, the loss of something
makes us grieve, gaining something makes us feel happy and if we perceive an
injustice it makes us feel angry.
THE LAW OF CONCERN
We have to have
feelings and care about something before it will elicit an emotional response.
If we are unconcerned or just do not care, then we will not feel
THE LAW OF APPARENT REALITY
Whatever seems real to us can elicit an
emotional response. If we do not believe in something and it does not seem
real, then it will not emotionally affect us.
THE LAW OF CHANGE, HABITUATION AND COMPARATIVE FEELING
We respond to change in a number of ways. In
life we tend to get used to our circumstances so we try to compare what is
happening to us now, to what we are used to or to what we believe should be
right. Change is inevitable and people fear what may happen. They may be
uncertain what to expect and wish they were back in a time when life
seemed a better place.
THE LAW OF HEDONIC SYMMETRY
There are certain negative events and situations
that happen in life which are so awful that we never become used to them.
Thinking about them will always elicit a strong emotional feeling. On the other
hand, positive events and emotions will fade over time and their feeling
Time does not heal all wounds, past events
can retain their emotional hold over us and affect us throughout
our lifetime. A traumatic event or heartbreak in early life may have been
forgotten, but we still feel the emotion. The emotion and the event have to be
relived and re-evaluated to change the emotion or release it.
THE LAW OF CLOSURE
The way we respond to our emotions tends to be
absolute. A burst of emotion elicits a set response and sends us down a certain
path of action, until another emotion appears to send us off on a
People naturally consider the consequences of
their emotional reactions and modify their responses accordingly.
THE LAW OF LIGHTEST LOAD
People are particularly motivated to use
re-interpretation of events and situations to reduce negative emotions and
THE LAW OF GREATEST GAIN
re-interpret situations for a positive emotional gain. For example, a burst of
anger can be used to make people back down, grieving attracts help and sympathy
and a feeling of fear may stop us acting rashly and keep us safe.